Quotes From the Fandom #13, “A Personal Struggle” Edition, September 5th, 2011

This week’s Quotes Article is one that I have a deep personal connection with. It comes with a bit of a story. Why not sit a while and listen?

A few days ago, I ran in to a bit of a problem in my personal life that needed sorting out, and I decided to do something that was very difficult for me. Longtime friends of mine had broken away from me upon finding out about my sexuality (I am pansexual). I decided that I needed to come out of my little closet and be more open to prevent this from happening more. I had to start, of course, with my family. This was something I feared greatly, as you might understand. I was unsure of what they would say or do. I spent a few days fretting about it before heading on over to Ponychan’s /chat/ board asking for help, kind words, motivation, or anything they could give me. As is the norm for Ponychan, they responded with overwhelming words of encouragement to help me through a troubling time in my life. Their replies hit me very deeply, and I knew I couldn’t let them go to waste. So here they are, BronyVille fans. The words given so freely to me when I needed them most. This is my thanks to you, /chat/, and all the wonderful help you’ve given me. I’m free now, so to speak. Thank you.

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“Dude. You have my support. I’m not one of the big posters here, so you might not even know me, but ya know, I know you, or at least I know your posts. Your posts are always inspiring and uplifting. Amongst the Ponychan community, your light does shine, my friend. So today, this is for you.

You have chosen to be yourself. To stop hiding from others and their ignorance and/or unfounded, irrational hate. You are both courageous and awesome for this decision. I’ve said it before, but the fact that so many people hide who they are in the world today is incredibly sad. If you only show half of yourself to the world, you are depriving others of so much, and depriving yourself of the simple relief one can feel when they aren’t trying to hide themselves. It can take a lot out of a person.

It will be hard at times, no doubt, but you will shine, dear pony, much more than you could have before. You will be happier in the end, and so will those close to you. Because you will be there. All there, as a complete, wonderful, radiant person. This is something many people won’t allow themselves to do.

It’s ok to be nervous. It’s not an irrational fear, considering, but things may be better than you expect. Often our minds automatically go to the worst case scenario out of instinct. You may be surprised by some people. Disappointed too, perhaps, but then at least you know who would truly stick by you for anything.

It is an important step, and one you need to do eventually if you are ever going to live a happy life. Once you do it, it will be a weight off your chest which you wouldn’t believe. I imagine something like that is hard to carry around with you. Then, instead of imagining the worst and getting more worried, you can face the real, true challenges ahead with a smile on your face and awesome in your heart.

Your parents will be the hardest, once you tell them, I’d imagine it will get much easier for you with some support in your corner. You can do it, man. Take a deep breath and just think of how much more relieved you will be afterwards.

Forget the haters, they aren’t worth it. This is one more step towards earning your Cutie Mark in life. Just a part of it, mind you, but still important.

You are a wonderful person and no one can take that away from you, man. You are a rarity in the world. I can tell that simply from how you come across in your posts.

Do it, man. Because you are awesome and freaking deserve it!”

-SD Streak

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 “You can do it. Believe in yourself! Sometimes you have to close your eyes and just step forward knowing that everything will be okay. No matter what happens it will be okay, and even better you won’t have to hide yourself anymore”

-Circuit Mane

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“I think this quote should suffice….

‘I am happy to report that one of your youngest subjects has learned a valuable lesson about friendship. Sometimes, the thing you think will cause you to lose friends and feel left out can actually be the thing that helps you make your closest friends and realize how special you are…'”

– Twilight Sparkle, Call of the Cutie

-(I’m so very sorry, I’ve forgotten who posted this and never saved your name!)

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“Listen up, mbulsht. You’re the guy who writes all these great motivational speeches for other people. You’re the guy who is willing to stand up for what you believe in here. You’re a pretty great @#$%ing person and you deserve to live your life. You know what, if anyone shuns you for being who you are? @#$% THEM. They don’t deserve to be your friends. They’re not good enough for you. And that’s not even an exaggeration. Being your friend should be seen as an honour. If someone refuses to accept that honour? Their loss.

You’re not gonna be able to hide it forever, as you probably know. And you know what? You shouldn’t feel bad over this. You shouldn’t go around being afraid that others discover it. It’s not your fault and it changes nothing about you. Tell them. Tell the world. Let them judge you as they see fit. If they can’t accept it, well, then they can’t accept who you are and are, quite frankly, wasting your time.

You can do this, man. You are young, you have heart. You are strong and maybe you don’t belong. But there are people who care about you, people who don’t judge you for being you. Even if it’s just on the Internet, they’re still real people. Go out there and tell the world who you are. Tell them to @#$%ing deal with it or they can just @#$%ing leave. You’re an awesome guy and you deserve to live a good life. So go out there and do that. You can if you want to, I know it.”

-Whelp

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“Wish I was at home on my computer so I could write you something amazing, and as soon as I get off work I will; but for now, I love you man. You have told me yourself that you don’t think it will be a big deal with your family and your friends that count most likely already know.

This will be a chance to truly see the people around you for who they really are. Some will shine, others will fall short, just remember that its their problem, not yours. You are the same person in or out of the closet, and that person is @#$%ing amazing.

I’m with you all the way!”

-SturdyPots

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“Do it, bro. Do it and a great weight will be lifted from your shoulders!”

-Marceline

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This reply wasn’t in the thread, but was given to me personally in chat.

“This article is all about being true to yourself. I don’t want you to feel like you have to shield that even on the blog…..You only circle around this globe so many times, man. Don’t ever let anything hold you back. Live life so when you look back you realize it was one good ride. My personal motto is ‘live a life of minimized regrets.’ You can’t stop them all but tackle that which is important to you.”

-Apple Cider

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Thank you all very much for your words, and I’m sorry if I’ve missed you or forgotten somebody in that thread. As you might understand, it’s hard to save quotes properly when you’re looking at your screen through a haze of tears and trying to hide your crying from your room mates.

And thank you to Mooshi, and those adorable cat pictures you always post. You’ve been nothing but a rock of support for me, even if you don’t know it. I can now freely say that I love you, and and few will ever understand how happy that makes me. I love you so very much.

 

 

 

 

 

As always, I’ll see you next week with some more awesome quotes. Maybe this time I won’t cry so much….

-Ben Sims
(mbulsht)

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3 Responses to Quotes From the Fandom #13, “A Personal Struggle” Edition, September 5th, 2011

  1. QuillDipper

    Beautiful, inspiring, wonderful.

  2. Zephyr

    I do hope everything went well with your family and that your fears were unfounded. I’m glad that we could help you strengthen your resolve and prove yet again that us bronies are all part of a great circle of friends. Also kudos for sharing out the love that was shown to you so that everyone can see!

    PS: I was the one who quoted the friendship report haha

    • mbulsht

      My apologies for neglecting to save your Ponychan username before the thread 404’d. That was super cool of you for doing that, by the way. It completely made my day. Current personal situation aside, your words and the words of those around you on Ponychan helped a lot.

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